“Never cut what can be united.” – Joseph Joubert
When you have been wronged, a poor memory is your best response. NEVER CARRY A GRUDGE. While you’re straining under its weight, the person with whom you’re mad is out producing.
Forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them more. There is no revenge so sweet as forgiveness. The only people you should try to get even with are those who have helped you.
“Forgiveness ought to be like a canceled note – torn in two, and burned up, so that it never can be shown against one” (Henry Ward Beecher). One of the greatest strengths you can display is forgoing revenge and daring to forgive an injury.
“He who cannot forgive destroys the bridge over which he may one day need to pass.” – Larry Bielat
The one guaranteed formula for limiting your potential is unforgiveness. Hate, bitterness, and revenge are luxuries you cannot afford.
People need loving most when they deserve it least. Forgiveness heals; unforgiveness wounds. When we think about offenses, trouble grows; when we forgive, trouble goes.
Our forgiveness for others brings assurance of God’s forgiveness for us. In Matthew 6:14-15 (NIV) said, “If you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”
The weight of unforgiveness greatly drags a person down. It is a tremendous load to carry in the race we’re called to run.
When faced with the need to forgive and forget, never make the excuse, “But you don’t know what he/she did to me!” That may be true, but it’s more important to know what unforgiveness will do to you.
What really matters is what happens in us, not to us. Unforgiveness leads to a great bitterness, which is a deadly misuse of the creative flow from above. Great amounts of brainpower are used up when you ponder a negative situation and plot how to get even. This kind of thinking is completely unproductive. People who burn bridges will be isolated and alone and will deal with neutrals and enemies the rest of their lives. That’s why we should build bridges, not burn them.
Vengeance is a poor traveling companion. Every Christian is called to a ministry of reconciliation (2 Corinthians 5:18). Getting even always causes imbalance and unhappiness.
When you don’t forgive, you are ignoring its impact on your destiny: “Hate is a prolonged form of suicide.” – Douglas V. Steere
How much more grievous are the consequences of unforgiveness than the causes of it! Norman Cousins summed it up when he said, “Life is an adventure in forgiveness.”
It’s true that the one who forgives ends the quarrel. Patting a fellow on the back is the best way to get a chip off his shoulder. Forgive your enemies – you can’t get back at them any other way!
Forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the high cost of hatred, and the waste of energy. There are two marks of greatness: giving and forgiving.
If you want to be miserable, hate somebody. Unforgiveness does a great deal more damage to the vessel in which it is stored than the object on which it is poured.
“Every person should have a special cemetery lot in which to bury the faults of friends and loved ones. To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you.” – Unknown